Watch Your Words

I admit, I've hurt some people

I'm sorry if I hurt you

I'm not being a hypocrite, I'm making people realize that words hurt

Even myself..

First of all, why be mean to a non-Kuwaiti?

It DOES NOT make you cool

Stop bullying them because they're not the same as you

You won't gain more friends

Don't be racist

Don't just make fun of people

Fun of their voices

Their appearances

Their weight 

It's not funny

It's mean

And it kills

You might be the reason someone self harms

You might be the reason someone wants to take their own life

You never know what people go through at home

Watch your words and be careful what to say,

Put yourself in people's shoes before you say something,

And respect to be respected.

If anyone's hurt, upset, or broken I'd love to listen and help,

And if anyone has a story they wouldn't mind sharing anonymously so they could help others,

Talk to me on ask.fm/fajerspeaks

What You Call Love

You have a crush on someone
You're dating
You think you're in love
It's just a feeling that doesn't last long
Teenagers, this isn't true love
You're just having fun
I swear to you it will lead to bad things, it's not okay
You might say its true love but it's not
You're young, you're experiencing
You think your heart broken and your life is over
NO! You can't be heartbroken
You were never really in love
It's just a short term emotion
IT'S NOT TRUE LOVE! It won't last! Why destroy yourselves and get sayi2at?
There will come a day where you will be bored
So be careful
And remember.. You're just having fun
Think about it
You're not really in love!

Move on!

You might've made a mistake in the past that you still regret
Or something bad might've happened in your life
We all make mistakes
We were born to make mistakes and to learn
Instead of being stuck in the past learn from your mistake and move on
You'll never be happy
It's perfectly okay to make mistakes
But you shouldn't repeat them
The most important thing is to learn from the past
"Everything happens for a reason" I repeat: everything is Gods will

If you lose a friend or whoever you call your "love" -.-
It's fine...
They weren't worth it anyways!
Don't even think about it
It's hard to move on but you eventually have to
Be happy you learned that they weren't true friends
They might still have a place in your heart
But why would you want someone who doesn't want you?
If you really love and respect them let them leave..
Be free
You learn from them
You learn that even someone who was once so close to you might leave
You learn that you won't get too attached
Which will only make you stronger

Be Optimistic

Seriously, be happy.
Be positive.
Don't let anything get to you!
"Everything happens for a reason". Keep that in mind.
You can be happy if YOU want to.
Things hurt but when you ignore everything and smile everything feels better.
You feel stronger.
الحقران يقطع المصران.
Ignore everyone who bothers you. Don't reply. You'll be getting "7asanat".
If you hate your life because something bad happened, don't. Hatha ili Allah katba.
You know what they say: "5eera".
Make the most of everything.
No regrets. Just have limits.
Free yourself and you will be happy.
Smile smile smile.

Life's Good

All of us have bad days.

A good day can get ruined in a second.

Well guess what? It's just a day.

Just because you felt bad for ONE DAY doesn't mean your life sucks. 

It doesn't mean your life is bad.

You might feel empty at times.

But when you put that awesome smile on your face you will feel better.

Fake smiles makes people you love happy which makes you happy.

So even if you're having a bad day it WILL get better.

"Everything happens for a reason".

Learn.

If you were happy all the time your life would be PERFECT.

What's a perfect life? You won't learn anything. You won't grow.

It'll be pretty boring and too easy.

The challenges you faced, all the bad days, the tears that came running down your cheeks MADE YOU, YOU!

You're stronger.

You're a fighter.

You're AMAZING.
الحمد لله

Be You

You were born for a reason.
Allah placed you in this world for a reason.
You're special.
He made you diffferent.
No human is the same.
Not even identical twins. Not even their fingerprints.
Don't be afraid to be who you are, be confident.
People will RESPECT you.
Yeah, you WILL get hate.
But haters are fans in denial.
They wanna be YOU.
They can't be themselves.
Be you, you will be loved.
I promise by being you, you'll be entertaining.
People will wanna be your friend.
Be you.
People love you, no need to be insecure, you're amazing.
I swear by being you, you'll be way happier and bad comments will mean nothing to you.
You'll be proud.
And remember to SMILE!

Heartless People

Why are some people so heartless?
Why do people have to be so mean?
We're all mean at times. I admit I'm mean. But you need to realize it's wrong. You need to apologize. I'm sorry if I was ever mean to you.
You know what? You need to put yourself in the person you're mean to's position.
Apologize.
Some people talk to you everyday and you find it annoying. They talk to you everyday not because they're obssessed with you but because they care about you. You should appreciate that and don't take them for granted.
Some people are special, hold on to them. Talk to them. Ask about them. Show them you care. Not because you can't live without them but because they mean something to you.
Just because someone's REALLY nice to you doesn't mean you could use them
What if it was your sister who was being used? Your best friend? Your brother? Wouldn't it hurt?
Be nice from now on. But not too nice. There are limits.
Don't be heartless.
And put a smile on your face. It's beautiful.

Disappointment

It hurts.
You think a 'friend' is something but they turn out to be something else. They really aren't. You trust them so much and they let you down. They end up hurting you. It's really hard to find friends nowadays.
You wanna stand up for yourself but you're afraid they'll think you're weak. You're too nice. You have no idea why you don't have the guts to fight for yourself.
No, you don't expect them to be perfect. But why'd they use you? All you've been is a true friend to them.
You wanna push them out of your life but how? Block them on whatsapp for what they think is no reason? They'll call you immature. Talk to them? They'll call you a drama queen.
You wanna feel better. You don't want them in your life. You wanna get rid of them. You can't handle toxic people.
They disappoint you.

Bullying

NOBODY deserves to be bullied. We have all bullied someone in our lives which is wrong. STOP!
I know this is old but Amanda Todd? She displayed herself, did bad things, etc.. It doesn't give ANYONE the right to say she deserved the bullying. It doesn't give them the right to say she should've died. she made a mistake. SO WHAT? Nobody's perfect.
What's wrong with this world? People keep killing themselves because of bullying. It's NOT OKAY! Put yourself in their position! Words hurt! In fact, they kill.
Why be so mean? You have no idea what the victim goes through. Behind that smile, there's a story. People self harm. They don't only cut. Why be so mean? What's wrong with kids these days? Are you that heartless? WHat if it was YOU who was being bullied? Even by saying the simplest words it might hurt a person. Just by saying, "your hair is ugly", for example might hurt someone. Think before you speak.
ENOUGH! STOP BULLYING! Who the hell are you to bully people?
They have families. She's a sister. She's a daughter. He's a brother. He's a son. How'd you l;ike it if you were bullied or your sister or anyone you love got bullied?
There's so much more I want to say but I hope you get my point.
Apologize. #stopbullying.

Friends

Don't trust too much :)!
You might think people are your friends but the truth is they're backstabbers.
They pretend their your friends so you could tell them your darkest secrets.. Then? Everyone's talking about your reputation.
Even your best friend since KG could turn out to be your worst enemy.
They'll go talking behind your back then leave you.
Is it really worth trusting them?
There are good people in this world.
Still, don't trust them!
Don't tell other people's secrets to anyone. You never know what the 'friend' you're telling secrets to might do. They might even record you.
Not everyone is as good as you think, people can act.
Even when you need a shoulder to cry on, you don't need anyone to talk to. Get a paper and a pencil. Write things down.
"It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend".
Depend on yourself and yourself only!

Clarifications

Dear teenagers,

Just because SHE retweeted you doesn't mean she loves you. Doesn't mean she's stalking you. Your tweet came up on her timeline. Maybe one of her following retweeted your tweet, she liked it then she retweeted it.

Just because someone tweets love quotes, doesn't mean they're in love. Some quotes are really good.

Just because someone tweeted "I miss you" doesn't mean its for their girlfiriend/boyfriend.

There are many many many more examples but these really bug me.

Stop judging, will you?

People

People? Two kinds.
There are good people, with big hearts. Like my Meriam, never did I meet a friend who cares for me this much. Hold on to them. Someday they might change, and you might hate it! You'll learn from them. If they leave you, keep in mind its a 5eera. They were in your life for a reason and they left your life for a reason. Don't upset yourself. They might have problems. Be glad they left, you'll learn not to be attached. Even if they once meant so much to you. It's God's will. Free yourself, life doesn't stop for anyone.
There are toxic people. They will try to ruin your life so you could feel as bad as they do. They're mentally sick, don't give a crap. Let them go, be cold-hearted. Even if they try to make your life miserable, you know your worth. Don't le them bring you down to their life.. Smile. Kill them with kindness.
Don't let anyone break you. YOU ROCK!

Genderism

Instead of saying "Sexism" I named this post "Genderism" which doesn't make sense.
Before any of you judge, sexism is basically being racist but with genders instead of ethnicity, religion, etc.
Before I start, two quotes I really like are :
Because I am a woman, I must make unusual efforts to succeed.  If I fail, no one will say, "She doesn't have what it takes."  They will say, "Women don't have what it takes." 
 ~Clare Boothe Luce

The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power.  You just take it. 
~Roseanne Barr
In society..
A girl follows a guy on twitter? Rude, she wasn't raised well, she's in a relationship, blah blah blah.

A girl doesn't wear the 7ijab (headpiece)? Bad, she's bad.

A girl is drinking coffee with a guy? Definetely in a relationship.

A girl wants to act? Ray7a feeha. (Bad reputation).

A girl cries? Girls are so overdramatic.

A girl's heart is broken? Move on, who cares.

A girl goes out alone? Her parents didn't raise her well.

A girl shouts at the disgusting guys following her in the mall? Attention seeker.

There are many more examples. حسنوا الظن. She might be chilling with her brother or colleague. She doesn't have to wear a headpiece to have a pure heart and to be a good person who who follows her religion. Some girls without the headpiece are better 3ind Allah than some girls who do wear it. Girls have feelings and hearts. Some girls know their limits. Just because some girls are actors doesn't mean they made huge mistakes on purpose. Stop judging.
And families: Don't be too strict on your daughters, sisters, cousins. They will wanna make mistakes just so they could get on your nerves (3nad). Loosen up a bit but make sure they follow the right path.
Why when a girl gets engaged and you find out one bad thing about her you leave her? What about guys? For example if a family finds out he's a player they still don't care. He'll marry their daughter. Why can guys go out alone? Teach the girls in your family self-defense, put boundaries for them and trust them All a girl wants is to be trusted. Stop being sexist.
*I didn't intend to offend any family. Some girls needed to relate. This is what most girls feel. They need to break out of that shell.

"Love"

First of all, being open minded means listening and tolerating others ideas not supporting relationships and showing too much skin.
Falling in love is natural. But, how you react to that feeling isn't.
You know relationships are wrong, especially in Islam.
You know they most probably won't last.
You know people will talk, ruining your reputation/family name.
Try to step aside and not give too much face.
UNTIL you're old enough and you're extra sure you're getting married. AND inform your parents.
Cause for those who have experienced it or read blogs: you fall in love, you let go, you cry, you move on and your reputation is almost ruined. Get my point? There's no point of wasting your time in a relationship knowing what you're doing is wrong. Wait 'til you get married.
I can't tell you whether you can have guy or girl friends (there's a space between "girl" and "friend") or not. Your mother should know if you do instead anything get's serious.
KNOW YOUR LIMITS! And make sure that 'friend' knows there limits or you better run away, haha.
Anyways girls, if you need help or regret anything, talk to me on twitter or kik or even ask if you're shy. Or comment below (anonymously).
If you regret it and wanna make things better don't regret it. Everyone has flaws, we're not perfect! Still, that doesm't mean repeat that same mistake. Learn from it.

Nannies

Nannies: they're human too. The fact that they're mistreated in some houses is very disappointing. Just because you have more money than they do doesn't mean you're better than them. They leave their homes and children just to make a little bit of money. Why do some families just give them bread? Or just leftovers? What are they? They're just like you! Allah made them, just like he made you.Don't call them "5adama". It hurts. Put yourself in their shoes. They're hurt. They miss their families. Don't sware at them. Don't beat them up. They might lose your clothes, get you the wrong food, not hear you when you call them but be calm. When you order food, order for them. Treat them like family. You'll see a huge difference. They're good people. God bless them, and you!

Insecurity

You're beautiful no matter what they say. Beauty comes in all sizes: whether you're skinny, big, short, or tall! You know the feeling you get when you walk and peoplemstare, you feel insecure. It's normal. If you're beautiful on the inside, you'll always be beautiful on the outside. Haven't you noticed that a sweet lady always looks beautiful? It's interesting. When people call you ugly, it's how they feel about themselves. Dont take it personally. Allah made you. Therefore, you're gorgeous. Be thankful. You have eyes, a nose; all the senses. You aren't perfect but really.. Who is? We all have our flaws. Smile, it might brighten up someones day. A child smiled at me today at the supermarket and he really made my day. Thank God. Il 7amdillah. You're gorgeous.

Self Harm

Dedicated to my amazing friend. You're a good person with a very kind heart. Don't believe what anyone says about you. You are who you are and you know that. Bullies are bullies, they wanna make you feel miserable. You shouldn't feel miserable. What they say about you reflects who they truly are. Don't let them bring you down :D! SMILE. Self harm; many do it. It's a way to release, but it's not the best way. Yes, we all go through a lot but life's good. If you cut or do any other type of self harm, please stop. It's for YOUR own good. You'll feel much better. Think of all the negative effects! Forget self harm: start praying, reading Quraan, writing things down. Try. Try and you'll be a lot happier. Life's good no matter what!

Society

Society judges all.
Do whatever you wanna do but with boundaries.
You will be judged whether you're the most innocent person or a person who makes mistakes.
We all make mistakes.
We aren't flawless.
Remember the limitations though; Islam, family, etc.
But if you wanna do what you think is right and have thought about it, go for it.
Be happy.
Smile as much as you can.
Be like Sara.
As heard before, you say you're pretty: you're over confident. You say ypu're ugly: attention seeker.
What do you want from us?
I wanna be famous, by acting, but I can't. They judge actors, yes they do. "Oh, you'll hang out with boys, do wrong." NO. That's incorrect. What you hear isn't always true.
Don't judge someone when you don't know them. Just because some are like that, doesn't mean we all are. It's silly.
Society killed the teenager.
But still, follow your dreams.

We're Just Teens

We all dream
We all want a perfect life
We all go through a lot
We all get pressured to be perfect
We all cry
We all laugh
We all get hurt
We all fall in love
We all lose people
We all gain friends
We all feel like the world is against us
But really, we're just upset
We all wish
We all hope
It's this phase in our life. We're teenagers. Our lives are messed up. We all hurt each other. This is the phase we learn the most from. When we haven't grown up, we know nothing about life. But in these few years, we learn a lot. We go through the most. It's preparing us for the future. I've been a teen for a year and a few months and I've learned so much. I'm only fourteen. I've got five more years to go, and I'm looking forward to experience every second.
-Fajer